My Lamb and Veggies Baby Recipe

I got this Baby Gourmet cook book from Fully Booked and found it hard to find some ingredients here in the Philippines so I searched online for substitutes that you can easily find in the grocery. The portions isn't measured but I just estimated them.

I also placed Z in her seat and let her watch me cook from afar. She seems to like watching mommy walk here and there... and Mugen too (dog).

What you'll need:
(buy only a few and you'll be able to make baby food good for a week)

Lamb (leg part) around 100 grams, cut to small cubes

Veggies:
Sigarilyas
Brocolli
French beans
Zuchinni
Turnips
Peas








Fromage fraiche
Cream frais
(both can be substituted by sour cream or all purpose cream 2 teaspoons)

sunflower oil

Directions:
Prepare the veggies. Cut the turnips, brocolli, sigarilyas and zuchinni to small pieces. Make sure you clean the veggies. I used the Chicco multi-purpose disinfectant but veggie wash is also acceptable)

Top and tail the french beans. You can just use your hands to pull off a small part of both ends.

Heat a saucepan and put some sunflower oil. Brown the lamb pieces and add the brocolli and turnips, half cover with water.

Cover the saucepan and leave at med heat for 15 mins.






Add all the other veggies and cover, leave for another 10 mins.

Turn off the heat and add the cream. Mix and strain, leaving just a little liquid for blending.







Put everything in the blender and blend until your desired consistency.

Place contents in small portioned storage containers with lids. Or you can also put it in a lidded ice tray.

And that's it!

Just put it in the freezer and take only what you need per meal.

Remember not to microwave the baby food as this leaves some hot spots so you can just a put the container in warm water to thaw.

Don't worry about variation since it is recomended to feed baby a type pf food for 3-5 days to check for allergies.

This recipe is good for 6m onwards!

Now for the taste tester my connoisseur baby, and Mugen.

You can prepare other types of baby food next time and alternate them for variations.

Next up? Salmon/Sole with Spinach!

Not Only Kids Bully Each Other, Moms too!

I have recently come to the cyber world where mothers have different groups based on their interests. There are breastfeeding, cloth diapering and baby-wearing groups and forums online just to name a few. All of which are formed with the same intention: to support, release frustrations, share and become an outlet to mothers, giving them the sense that others need them, relate to them and empathize in their experiences. Sadly, it has also become a venue for motherly bullies.

For those of us who count on our groups to help us with our parenting challenges, it has become a part of a lifestyle that is indispensable. These groups have been proven to build lasting friendships and worthwhile connections since full-time and working moms alike find it hard to make time for socializing and human interaction, thus making the cyber space so reachable and accessible. Especially for most that do get the proper responses from their parenting hiccups to the extreme troubles, it is such a dismay to witness some mothers who are such "war heroes" and "extremists" who use this channel to bully the inexperienced and the weak. How come it sounds like a war of the monster moms out there?

Mom1: How can I breastfeed my baby exclusively if I only pump 2 oz per session?
Mom2: Hi, I have the same experience. I have finally come to the realization that some mothers don't have that much milk so I am mix feeding my baby formula.
Mom3: NO FORMULA! YOU ARE A BAD MOTHER!

hahahahaha

Just kidding... but it does sound like that.

In fact, I heard from a friend of mine who got so stressed about not being able to breastfeed her baby because of these pressures. I, for example, would be devastated if I was in her situation and I wouldn't need another mother to tell me how I can't give the gift of breast milk to my daughter.

Problem is, we tend to forget that "Mother knows best." Not you mother, but the mother of the child. Each parenting is different as with political views and fashion senses. If a mom asks for advice, give them your piece for reference and consideration instead of imposing your beliefs and thoughts onto them making them feel inadequate and frustrated. No mother deserves to feel that way since we all do our best for our children.

Information dissemination is important so do site your sources and be open-minded enough that not all sources are factual.

RESPECT each and everyone's opinions and agree to disagree. After all, you won't die if her baby isn't using cloth diapers or if she carries her baby facing out.

With the new laws about cyber crime in the Philippines, (I don't know what it is actually but I know it has something to this effect), we must all be wary of our cyber etiquettes and remember that being a mother is one of the most difficult job description in the world. Each mother strives to be the best and it is inhumane to show them that they aren't doing their job well.

BOTTOM LINE, I find my groups so helpful and great that I hope these motherly bullies would just stop.

Mommy Talk: decoded for new moms online!

Hey I had to keep on guessing and I had my inferences (if I be too shy to ask!)

So you're a new mom finding resources and support online only to find yourself left out and can't relate to the numerous abreviations and short terms that they're using!

Here's to get you started and we are letting you know that you are very welcome and moms like me are always happy to help!
MIL- oh how we love them! Mother-in-law
CS- ceasarian, c-section, forget about counter strike!
CD- it sings too! Of foul smell heheh Cloth Diaper
BF- well it can be boyfriend but usually its breast feed or BFing breastfeeding, no they are not cursing you
WAHM-lucky lucky Work at Home Moms
Mompreneur- A mom that does business
LO-little one
MCDP-Cloth Diapering group in FB!
IPNAP-Infant & Pediatric Nutrition Assosiation of the Philippines
GT MTP-Girl Talk/Mommy Talk Philippines! Love this FB group
FAB- Filipino Association of Baby-wearers
ISO-in search of
TIA-Thanks in advance
NB-new born
AP-attachment parenting
BD-baby dance (sex)
AF-aunt flo (menstruation)
FTM-first time mom
DD/DS/DH- dear daughter/son/husband
SAHM-stay at home mom
SAHP-stay at home parent
EBF-extended breastfeeding
EBM-expressed breast milk
BM-breast milk or bowel movement
IMHO-in my humble opinion
HTH-hope this helps
BLW-baby led weaning

These are just a few but will update whenever I encounter new ones!

Driving with Baby Zofia

So I was again without a yaya last Monday. She had to go home and have her baby baptised so I let her go on leave for 3 days. She actually went there with a full pocket and went back to us empty handed as the whole barangay came to "celebrate" the baptismal.

Monday I still had to work. I had to go to Marilao (north) and I had my daughter in her car seat. You can tell she's bored so off to sleep she went as the car is her lullaby, her cradle and her rocking chair. Going there was easy as she slept almost all the way. I had to keep her strapped at the back seat facing the rear for safety.

I hate that I forgot to install the baby mirror I bought from Zalora. And we have yet to try this out.

Coming home from Marilao, she woke up hungry. Luckily we were in Manila already and I had to stop the car and feed her. I made sure the doors were locked and that we were parked well so as not to be disturbed by passers by or motorists.




I changed her diaper and placed her back in her car seat. As I left her at the back to continue our drive home, she started shouting frantically as if she was being tortured! This girl is so persistent and I had to place her on the passenger's seat instead. Let me just tell you how dangerous this is! The airbag can go off pushing the seat forward plummeting against the seat and this can cause injury or death to the child.

Anyway, on our own risk we sat side by side happily for a few moments before the rain poured so much that it sarted to flood!

I thought that if ever we get stranded at least my baby won't go hungry! The traffic was so bad that my daughter won't stay on her seat anymore (car stops, she shouts, period) so I thought she was hungry so I took her again and tried to feed her. And guess what! She just likes to play with the steering wheel!

We went like that most of the way driving oh so slowly because of the traffic, with my 5month old baby on my lap helping me steer the wheel. Again, please don't do this, this is bad! I just can't imagine what kind of penalties I'll get if I was in the US! DUI? DWB!





But as long as she's quiet, I could drive better. After 3 hours we were home! It was such an adventure but I hope I won't have to do that often and if I do, I'd know to...

1. Install the baby view mirror
2. Have lots of toys.
3. Have handy, baby music to entertain!
4. Resist the urge to take baby off her seat!
5. Have my own snacks and water inside the car.

We have to do what we have to do!

Mommy Tiffany

Everywhere I Pump, I Pump Everywhere

For those of us who needs to, choose to, or for whatever reason has to go back to work after having a baby, and for those who choose to supply baby with breastmilk, hallelujah to the invention of breast pumps! We are lucky enough that the cow's milk factories thought of making these contraptions for faster extraction! Imagine if you have to hand express your milk at work, though it can be done.



At this time and age, you can find women doing all sorts of jobs in various fields of expertise. In most any work environment you can pump your milk if you want to. Exceptions for those who work at chemical plants with hazardous contents, gender discriminating environments, all of which are reason enough to look for another job! I don't really know how the law has turned out since they are still in the process of amending the Monster Bill that will regulate and decide how pumping at work will be accepted throughout the country but I could sincerely tell you that if you could talk to your superior regarding your desire yo pump, all you need is a few minutes 3 times a day for a regular 8hour job. 1 session can even be incorporated in your lunchbreak, how hard is that? All you need is determination! If you want to breastfeed your baby, you will.

When it comes to pumping (breastmilk) we cannot choose where and when all the time especially if we don't handle our own schedule or if we find ourselves in hectic situations mixed with the demands of our job and the traffic! So what do I do? Everywhere my day takes me, with 4 hours interval max, I pump!

I would pump in my office while working, pump in a restaurant lavatory, pump while driving and pump in a movie house!(this is best done if you have companions sitting beside you on both sides)
No one said it's easy, especially if you are an employee, you don't have the privacy of your own office or you don't own a car. It's not easy yes, but it is possible, so here are a few tips I have compiled to make it easier! It may or may not apply to you, you may or may not agree, but this is just based from my experience.

1. Buy a hands free pumping bra or band. There are alot of brands out there but I saw a cute band being sold at the Medela house that caught my fancy. Or what I do is I buy cheap bandeaus from Greenhills that have two layers. The inner layer I cut holes through it just enough to fit the breastshield. This way you can pump handsfree even if your pump is single electric.

2. If you plan to really go back to work full time invest in a double electric pump. It doesn't have to be an expensive brand I know there are other brands that are just as effective. Or you can buy two manual pumps so that you can take advantage of the let down.

3. Make sure you bring with you a good cooler bag to store your milk and an ice pack. A good cooler bag means that the outer fabric or material won't get wet pr moist and a good ice pack keeps your milk chilled 8-12 hours.

4. I found this tip very useful from the fridge to go woman whos name i could not remember I'm so sorry! But she said that you can put pump parts in the cooler so that you don't have to sterilize them after every session. Or if you find this icky, you can...

5. Buy the Dr.Brown's microwave sterilizer bags which I find super easy to use. I got it as a gift from my friend Graciella and I use it to sterilize pump parts if I have access to a microwave that is when I'm at the office.

6. Put Joy or whatever you use to clean pump parts in a small container and always have them in your pumping bag. I use the small Listerine bottle for this.

7. Always bring extra breast pads and an extra shirt in your breast pump coz you'll never know for spills.

8. It is wise to choose a pump bag that is versatile so that you can bring it anywhere whatever the occassion. My Pum-in-style from Medela came with a backpack and I had to bring it when I attend events and weddings! Imagine sa long dress high heels and a black backpack. I thought I looked cute though.

9. Have a battery pack handy and in my case my dad made me a car outlet so that I can pump in my car while driving. Traffic is equals to pumping opportunity. Take care to concentrate on driving!

10. If you have to attend a meeting or some time consuming affair make sure you schedule to pump right before. With that said, don't cram your to-do's so that you will have ample time for pumping.

11. Whenever you can, incorporate pumping time into your schedule or better yet, schedule your time around your pumping schedule. It is usually best to mimick the time your baby has his meals.

12. If you have companions for your day or your colleagues at the office, let them know about your pumping. Most will be understanding enough to cover for you when you're pumping. It's always effective if you show your appreciation through little gifts or do the same for them whenever you can. True story.

13. Know where you can purchase pump parts specific to your pump model. A friend of mine panicked when her pump parts got squished and broken in the check-in baggage and had to go from one store to another to look for the replacement.

14. Have a photo of your baby to look at while you pump. I swear to this, your milk will flow better if your milk ducts have the motivation to feed hahahah! I usually look at my baby's photos on my phone and I can also check emails and write blogs like this. Next thing I know? Bottle is full!

My breastfed baby at 4 months. Yes we went swimming.

15. Not with baby... so you think you can wear the turtle neck top you've been meaning to... but no. It is still wise to wear breastfeeding friendly clothes when you have to pump. So it really means, wear breast feeding clothes until you're not breast feeding anymore. =) It's alright! Not the end of the world!

16. Even when you can't save your milk because you don't have access to a ref or cooler or if you are travelling abroad, pump your milk still as often to keep your milk supply up! Yes it's such a waste! Pump more importantly, you still have milk when you return home to your baby!

So there, I'll add some more tips when I come across other pumping experiences and feel free to comment if you have any more suggestions!

Happy pumping!
Mommy Tiffany

Baby Zoe drinking milk while in her Baby K'tan Baby Carrier whilst shopping!

Breast Feeding as a Single Mommy

Breast feeding is an investment. You invest your effort, time, patience, immobility, a good working breast pump and of course breast feeding paraphernalia that we think are essential. It's an investment that has 100% sure return.

I am not one to do a lot of research and give you facts, but instead I write mostly about my experience and opinion. I am new at this, just 5 months mommy to my baby girl Zoe (yes she is a girl) but during that short span of time, breastfeeding has been a challenge especially for a single mom like me.

When Zoe was born, doctor's and lactation consultants praised her for latching on right away and the right way to latch. I didn't have a lot of milk at first but she was very persistent though she cried every 30 mins and wanted to eat. My mother actually suggested to give her formula since she thought that the baby is going to die of hunger. Luckily, the doctors explained to us that during the baby's first few days out of the womb, their stomach capacity is just the size of a small quail egg and that the colostrum is enough to fill the baby's appetite. Plus, I was decided that I will breastfeed my child even before I was pregnant although no one told me to.

Back home as I am living with my parents and my sister, I am mandated to follow the "ge lai" process that Chinese believe to regain the health of the mother post partum. You can find out more about that here. So there I was without taking a bath for a month, eating food seasoned with lots of sesame oil (the smell becomes super horrible if you are smelling it every day all over the house), drinking thick cocoa every morning, icky icky herbal teas, no water and citrus juices, just warm grape juice, yada-yada-yada. In short, I was a wreck. Good thing Zoe didn't seem to be bothered about how I smelled or looked. One thing I noticed though was that Zoe was constipated, maybe because of my lack of water intake and excessive eating of stuff that is supposed to warm the body. I'm not sure if it's a direct effect affecting my milk but I think it somehow does. I had to follow it but I was able to vent and complain every day to my mom unlike with some of my friends when a mother-in-law prepares the ge-lai for them, they had to keep their mouths shut or suffer from different comments like being unappreciative and such. So maybe it was a plus for me.

It is important that everybody in your house or those people who surround you believe in the importance of breast feeding, for you to be successful at it. But if they're not, all the more you have to be firm and let them know that this is your decision. Show them a chart of all the expenditures of feeding formula vs BFing if need be. I was also blessed with family who backed me up sans my "guama" grandmother from my mother side who kept on convincing me to stop pumping and feed Zoe formula. I blocked my ears every time she starts and she also nags me about getting married and all since being a single mom was my own decision. You will always encounter people who are pro-formula and it is always best to talk to them, find out why and convince them otherwise. I didn't bother with my "guama" since it was my mom who kept explaining to her all the benefits of breastfeeding. But according to her, we have the money to buy milk so why go through all the hassle? which is a very wrong mindset. I had no "hubby" to back me up so it was good that my mom and sister supports me with it. My dad, who is very traditional Chinese, actually believes in my efforts and even invented a customized car cable for my breast pump so that I can really literally pump on the go!

For the first few months I was equipped with all the knowledge I acquired through reading when I was pregnant. Some articles are centered on married moms and had suggestions like "to get some rest, pump your milk so that daddy can have his turn on feeding and taking care of baby". Of course I had my yaya as a daddy substitute, just kidding, but I opted to feed my baby directly and gradually introduced her to the bottle so that it would be easier for the caregiver to feed her when it is time for me to go back to work. After 3 months I went back to working full time at our family's company as marketing lead plus attending to my business, My Baby Dragon, at the side and allotting time for my daughter. I just turned 24 by the way and I had a lot of adjustments to go through the super 360 life changing event that is in the form of my beautiful daughter.

I must admit that there were times when I thought of giving up BFing especially when Zoe had her boob strike or left boob strike, whatever suits her trip that day. We also changed her yaya or caregiver 4 times already considering she's just 5 months old. (I will talk about yayas in my future post.) I had a full month without a yaya as well and I found it challenging at first and fairly easy around the 3rd week. It was like "you, me and milk" all day everyday and it was really really convenient to have milk ready for your baby 24/7, at the right "timpla" and the right temperature. I also started learning about baby wearing and had my ring sling handy whenever I had to go out for grocery with my baby. Eventually I found it hard to put on and it strains my shoulder on one side so I found the Baby K'tan and that's when I started my business to distribute the K'tan here in the Philippines. Baby-wearing and breast feeding goes hand in hand period.

Going out of the country was very complicated. I had to attend a conference for my baby business in Shanghai so I had no choice but to leave my baby with my mom and the yaya. As soon as I knew I had to go, I stocked up milk in the freezer allotting for the days I will be gone for them to feed Zoe through the bottle. I had to pump and pump when I was away and my hotel room didn't have a refrigerator! I thought of just pumping and throwing it away just to keep my milk supply up but I just couldn't. I talked to the receptionist and they allowed me to store my milk in their restaurant's freezer. After all that, during my last day in Shanghai, I was robbed and they took my bag with my phone, money and breast pump inside! I was even held in the police station to get the report done while I was suffering from engorged breasts full of milk that I wasn't able to pump out for 8 hours. So back in the hotel I had to hand express and then had to buy another breast pump! Horrible horrible and very hassle right? But I still thought that I went through all that for my baby and everything seems worth it.

4 days I was away and my stocked milk was not enough for Zoe. My mother bought formula and Zoe had that for the 9 hours I was short. I know! Please don't judge me, it was never my intention and I slap myself because of it. Then the real problem begins. Zoe refused to nurse direct. And she refused vocally and with facial expression. Imagine how I felt and I had to pretend I was alright and that I was in control of the situation. Again, I had no "hubby" to comfort me, just my mom and sister who were fairly supportive. I began to feel depressed and frustrated by the situation. I had to vent through the breastfeeding group in FB and it helped me a lot. A lactation consultant, Nanay Nona, I was able to get in touch with her and she gave me tips and tricks while consoling me. That's when you learn that BFing is not easy for most and that a support group is really very helpful. (If you are a BFing mom just message me so that we can add you to our growing support group). After 3 days of trying and trying, then when we were in the car, on her car seat, my sister suggested that I should try to offer my breast while she is sitted there and guess what? it worked and we were alright after that. She started nursing again. I never knew why she had problems then but I was really happy that we went through that rough patch and it prepared me for the trials ahead, Hopefully, just a few more.

Challenges will be there as with any endeavor. Just recently I changed my caregiver again and Zoe seems to know that someone else is taking care of her. She eats only half of what she usually consumes when I was away to work and prefers to nurse directly now and not drink from the bottle! As I said, there are always trials and I'm sure to solve this one soon.

Let us always remind ourselves the greatest gift we can give our children and think that some women still BF even in unlikely situations and conditions.

Cheers to all breastfeeding mothers and also to the fathers who support them.

Not your average single mom,
Tiffany

I'm Not a Cocoa Connoisseur

I'm not a cocoa connoisseur although I usually find myself craving for hot chocolates every now and then. I also think that if I drink and eat lots of chocolates, that my baby Zoe whom I'm breastfeeding will taste a little milk chocolate (YUM BABY).

I used to write reviews about movies and restaurants with my ex-bf. It's still alive and you can check it out here
http://showiesandchewies.tumblr.com/
But since were not together anymore... duh. Plus I don't get to watch movies or dine in any fine restaurants ever since I had Zoe who is 4 months and a half as I am writing this blog.

Where do i begin? Everybody begins somewhere. I recently went into the baby products business, which I can talk about in my future post, and there i encountered lots of different, powerful and influential moms who were already "in" the circle of mompreneurs and bloggers in the country. They were around 28 to 35 years old and they had nice families, supportive husbands and the like. They were really nice and they spoke the mom-language which I will later decode for you. I on the other hand, I turned 24 last month. I had my baby when I was 23. I'm a Filipino-Chinese coming from a really traditional Chinese family and I got pregnant but I didn't want to get married and wasn't forced to. That's for short... believe me the "for long" is super long! Hahahahah

I used to work for a five star resort in Boracay under Marketing Communications. My parents allowed me to experience working outside our family business. I had my whole life ahead of me and I got all I wanted. We're not richy rich people btw but then I am not the type who would splurge on shoes and signature bags. I only have a knack or fetish for gadgets I convince myself that I need, desperately. So, I was a graphic artist and I was living in the paradise island. Until I found out I was pregnant, got a bad case of Hyperemesis Gravidarum, was getting dehydrated and had a little spotting- I had to go home to Manila and see a doctor.

Fast forward! I now have a 4 1/2 month old baby girl! Working as Marketing Lead for our family business. Co-owner of our baby products business called My Baby Dragon. Daughter. Sister. Weird person.