Wednesday, July 31, 2013

It Started With A Theme: Gab's 1st Birthday Preparations


It starts with a theme.

We were pushing and shoving our way through a busy street market in Hong Kong. It was Gab’s first out of the country trip and she just turned 8 months. We figured she’d be big enough to experience things and young enough to be carried and we didn’t yet have to chase her. 
Baby-wearing Gab at HK Disneyland

So there I was baby wearing her in a market full of exquisite finds… when suddenly a unique stall caught my eye. They have on display beautiful hair pieces like the ones you see in 168 but better designs and quality, they had “payonetas” with textured/uneven patterned gem stones, ones which you see being worn by donyas. They also had dainty bracelets with ribbons and laces that you slap on your arm for it to curl around your wrist. Oh wow, I feel like I’m in an old Hollywood studio full of props!

And so I checked my cash on hand and I blew them all on assorted trinkets because right then and there I told myself this will be Gaby’s theme, though I did not yet had a term for it but I said this is it! I’m buying these for the “DRESS ME UP” station!
4 months left and counting.
Do I look Hampton-like mommy? (see stage mom, reflection)
After that whirlwind of ideas, I knew what I wanted for her birthday but I just became too busy to continue with the preparation. Every now and then I would brain storm with my family about what we should do and who we should invite. We knew we wanted it to be simple but the grandma just can’t help making it another one of her “bonggang debuts” (she already had 4 by the way, which includes her own, my sister and mine plus my brother’s wedding) Gaby’s birthday is her new chance to throw a party! This means… DAMAGE a.k.a. expenses! The grandfather decided that we celebrate the party in Anvaya and I liked the idea since (honestly) it meant that I can invite those that we “should” invite and only those who are dear to us will be able to come and make that effort to go all the way to Bataan! It’s perfect!
Trying out the hairpieces on Gab


So we had a venue and Anvaya Club was supposedly the one to do all the catering, activities, setup, etc. But no… They initially said yes to us but since the date we wanted fell on a Lenten season, they had a lot of activities happening on that day. It means they won’t be able to accommodate our event and we didn’t want to be a bother so luckily, my ninong’s private resort just opened and it’s just 7 minutes away from Anvaya (yes we timed it). The place is perfect for our Hampton themed party (we decided to name the theme Hampton/Polo/Tea party). It has a big lawn and an infinity pool, a pavilion and a huge wooden plank that we envisioned to be the stage. The thing is, it is just a venue.
So we had a venue and a theme.
When I blinked, Gaby is 10 months old. 2 months to go before her big day. I said to myself, I used to work at this stuff and I didn’t want to hire any stylist or coordinator to do all the things I used to getting paid for in the first place. So I was stubborn, despite all my mother’s reactions about getting a professional that specializes in kiddie parties. I was intent in doing it all on my own. I thought that if I was going to have a baby once and my baby is turning 1 and getting Christened once I didn’t want to miss a single detail of it. WARNING: It is not cheaper to do this. But I thought it will be. Haha! I did my research and I compiled a lot of pegs for the look and color combinations that I want. You will want to narrow your theme down to a few pegs and really try to stick to it. 
What people should wear PEG

What people should wear PEG

Treats station PEG

Color combination PEG
Wooden signage
overall look and feel
So we chose a studio to do Gab’s shots for her invitation. I went with my friend’s advice and tried out The Little Angel’s studio. We were very happy when we met the sisters from The Little Angel’s studio and one of them turned out to be a choir member of mine back in elementary! So we had Gab’s photo shoot and the results were awesome that it fitted really well with our theme. We also got them for the event coverage and photo booth, plus we were given a great good deal!
After getting the high-res files from the shoot, I immediately designed the layout of the invites and had them proofed. I printed them on photo paper, cut, pasted them onto boards and inside envelopes they went. And I made Save-the-dates on paper magnets as well. I figured Gab and I could be side by side on people’s fridges because I also had those during my debut and people told me that my face is still on their fridge doors! We also had her gift registry at Rustan's and Hobbes & Landes and almost all her gifts came from the lists we had. People now are more understanding about gift registries as they want you to have things that you and your baby want and need so gift registries are done a month before the event and before the invitations are sent out.
We had a theme, a venue and we had invitations! So that’s probably 20% done or 10%?
We finalized all our list of invites and then we had a total of 130 guests to be invited. We tried really hard to cut them down but it just wasn’t possible. Good thing Gaby didn’t have a father side to add to the invitees! Teehee! Fast forward a total of 115 guests arrived to the party and so my party-expert mom was right that we should always expect 10% less of the invites to actually come. The invitations were distributed a month early because the venue is far and people had to be informed early so that they can fix their schedules.

I mapped all the stations and activities we wanted during the event. We wanted to have, a croquet station, shoot the ring, tea station, canapés, ice cream and ice cones, refreshments station, dress me up and egg painting (since the date is near easter and Peter rabbit seemed like a good addition to our tea party). I went to Divisoria once a week to buy all the supplies for the stations as well as for the centerpieces and decorations that I will be DIY-ing. I spent 5-10K for each time I visited Divi and I was being cheap, take note. I also bought a lot of different fabrics that we will be using on tables and tents. I also had my friends start doing paper puffs and lanterns. Thanks friends!
Kimono coasters from Taiwan

Pretty Parasol for the dress me up station from SM
Pretty cups from Paper Chic Studio, we also got the straws and milk bottles from them!
Printed tissues from Divi, 35 per pack of 20
Standee with clips for the centerpieces and station labels
PEARLS for the DRESS ME UP station

From a bargain store in Subic, these are for the loose leaf tea
Bought these from 168, centerpieces

More "palamuti" for the treats spread

The events people at Anvaya also recommended for us to contact Jane and she is the go to person for events happening around Subic, Olongapo, Bataan area. Jane is the nicest and the sweetest person! She suggested a lot of nice things and had solutions to most of our dilemmas. We threw some responsibilities at her like the catering, sounds, flowers, balloons, fabricated tents out of bamboo and a lot of other miscellaneous stuff that will be more practical to be sourced locally and not coming from Manila. I also chose BAMBA to be our host. She is plump and happy as a teapot and we love her! She turned out to be my inaanak’s host for his birthday 2 years back! We had the food tasting and we were satisfied with the quality from Farfield Catering. Whew!
Only a month left and I am panicking. I am about 60% done and I only needed to get a host, make a map/passport for the guests, activities, etc. Work on favors, prizes, decorations, have the fabrics sewn to the right measurements, THE cake, pastries, and what nots, in short it is still a long way to go.
This was when I remembered my kinakapatid. She was the one who coordinated all our previous events. Her name is Christine Ong-Te, yes she owns the company that did Julia Montes’ debut and at first I didn’t want to bother her because she would just do it all for free! But I was panicking and she kinda slapped me because I didn’t ask for her help earlier. So we sat down and finalized and finalized everything. She had the idea to make the prizes redeemable like on an arcade where kids get to collect tokens from stations and activities and they get to choose prizes on a redemption booth at the end of the day! I suggest you all do it this way because the kids loved it. She also added the wishing tree station, balloon releasing activity and the fortune telling station (this is when people guess which item Gab will be crawling to and thus foretelling her future career, i.e. calculator, microphone, ball, mouse)
She made sure everything is organized and recorded and she took the liberty to bring Gaby’s cake which she just gave as a present in the end, which! Looked so much like the peg I gave her. Thanks to Sugarbox by the way! It looks so pretty!
The peg that we gave Sugarbox to copy (photo grabbed from the net)

She also wanted big letters GABY on the stage which I sourced out and had them made by Handicrafts atbp. We were very happy with the paper mache letters and even happier that it was so affordable.
Ms. Christine a.k.a Atchy Pooh also took care of the candy stations and her team helped us to execute and setup the venue on the day itself. They also did on-the-day coordination for us and had her team man most of the booths. Together with the local coordinator Jane, they used everything I bought from everywhere to design and setup the place. I’m so happy that I asked her to help and am so grateful with the work her team has done for Gaby’s birthday. She even did my make-up!
IKEA KALAS sets were used to set-up the kiddie tables
Paper Lanterns I bought from Divi, I got around 16 of these in different colors and sizes
Very affordable paper book that we used to make the banderitas. It's tear and water proof!

Weeks before the event, I had all my friends over to finish the puffs, banderitas, favors.
I love my friends!

Mini puffs for the tables

Big puffs for the tents and stations

In the end, we made about 50 of these

Round fans

Banderitas= cut fold tape and thread, 80 meters

Inside the favor bags were, a beach towel rolled and wraped in a kraft paper band, pulled together by a sticker printed with a birthay quote, a small towellette rolled and tied with a ribbon, a Victoria’s Secret body splash which we placed a sticker over to make it personalized for Gaby’s birthday, and the bag we used were brown eco-bags with the birthday quote printed on them.




They also used the bag to store all the giveaways they got on the day from the dress-me-up station and the redemption booth.
Now we prepared a total of 80 items for the prizes. Each categorized within 4 brackets with consisting token amounts to redeem. We included baby, kids, boys and girls, adult friendly items. We even had 6 rabbits.
Lastly I layouted labels for the tea, signages for the stations and made up rhymes for the station instructions. I had them all printed on sintra boards. I also confirmed with the local Church about the things we needed to bring and the time we should be present for the Christening. I chose the old church over the new and painted one since it felt more serene and spiritual for me. The pictures will speak for themselves, I will show them to you later! Moving on…
I thought, kiddie parties are harder to do than debuts and weddings since it didn’t have a clear template. But it is so much more fun because you can be imaginative and creative to make it unique and memorable. And don’t forget, it has to be picture perfect!

This is how we prepared for Gaby’s birthday and Christening.
Actual event notes and photos soon! Good luck on prepping for your kid’s parties!

XOXO
Tiffany

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

On Human Trafficking, Alagwa

I was priviledged to be invited to the premiere of the indie film ALAGWA directed by Ian Loreños, starring Jericho Rosales and child-star Bugoy. I meant to write a review about it a month ago but only when I read a personal account on FB about her boy being drugged and abducted in Rockwell mall that urged me to write about the issue now.

ALAGWA
Being a part of the production crew of direk Ian's first film The Leaving, I was impressed and proud after watching his 2nd film ALAGWA. It was raw, full of intent and had a personal treatment to it. In a bottle, the story is about a boy and his dad living a semi under priviledged life, going by life a day at a time. Story peaks when his boy went missing starting his mad search for his boy leading him to see different horriffic revelations. This is when we are taken to this reality that human trafficking is real, it has been happening before and it is still happening now. Casting was well thought of. Jericho played true to his character as though he read his part a hundred times. Bugoy has surprised me with his acting skills and resonance. I really recomend all my mommy friends to watch the movie. Not to share my threatened state but just to be aware and be careful with regards to trusting our surroundings.

This is really happening
A movie, though made truthfully and realistically is just a movie. As direk Ian tweeted me "it was made to create awareness and not scare". But watching it indeed scared me and probably of anyone who has a child, more for those who have little ones. We hear about human trafficking here and there but never really from a person's own account. It has been happening for years. In fact I still remember my pops telling me as a child that if I wander off on my own, someone will kidnap me and pluck my eyes out and turn me into a beggar somewhere in India. But what is the government doing about it? What are we doing about it?

It can happen to anyone
As I wrote earlier, a boy was taken in Rockwell. Where else of all malls could you feel that your child is safe? And who is exempted from this threat? I know it can happen to me, to us, but after this eye opener, I will not let it. First thought I had was, what in evil's name do these people involved took or drank to be able to do these horrors to a child? To their families? To the people who love them? Do they have children as well? So never ever let your child out of sight, out of an arms reach when going out public places even in villages and places that you are very familiar with. Never trust your caregivers even though they have been in your service for years. They might not be in on it but they are still vulnerable.

What we can do
There are several NGOs that are fighting human trafficking but I know of the Visayan Forum Foundation that actively participates in the fight against human trafficking. You can find them here www.visayanforum.org

Please spread the word, let your family and friends know that this is happening and we might be able to make a difference by saving our children from this heinous crime.

Visit http://www.facebook.com/pages/ALAGWA-movie-Official-Page
For movie screenings


Sunday, October 21, 2012

My Lamb and Veggies Baby Recipe

I got this Baby Gourmet cook book from Fully Booked and found it hard to find some ingredients here in the Philippines so I searched online for substitutes that you can easily find in the grocery. The portions isn't measured but I just estimated them.


I also placed Z in her seat and let her watch me cook from afar. She seems to like watching mommy walk here and there... and Mugen too (dog).



















What you'll need:
(buy only a few and you'll be able to make baby food good for a week)

Lamb (leg part) around 100 grams, cut to small cubes


Veggies:
Sigarilyas
Brocolli
French beans
Zuchinni
Turnips
Peas








Fromage fraiche
Cream frais
(both can be substituted by sour cream or all purpose cream 2 teaspoons)

sunflower oil

Directions:
Prepare the veggies. Cut the turnips, brocolli, sigarilyas and zuchinni to small pieces. Make sure you clean the veggies. I used the Chicco multi-purpose disinfectant but veggie wash is also acceptable)

Top and tail the french beans. You can just use your hands to pull off a small part of both ends.

Heat a saucepan and put some sunflower oil. Brown the lamb pieces and add the brocolli and turnips, half cover with water.

Cover the saucepan and leave at med heat for 15 mins.






Add all the other veggies and cover, leave for another 10 mins.

Turn off the heat and add the cream. Mix and strain, leaving just a little liquid for blending.







Put everything in the blender and blend until your desired consistency.

Place contents in small portioned storage containers with lids. Or you can also put it in a lidded ice tray.

And that's it!

Just put it in the freezer and take only what you need per meal.

Remember not to microwave the baby food as this leaves some hot spots so you can just a put the container in warm water to thaw.

Don't worry about variation since it is recomended to feed baby a type pf food for 3-5 days to check for allergies.

This recipe is good for 6m onwards!

Now for the taste tester my connoisseur baby, and Mugen.



You can prepare other types of baby food next time and alternate them for variations.


Next up? Salmon/Sole with Spinach!

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Not Only Kids Bully Each Other, Moms too!

I have recently come to the cyber world where mothers have different groups based on their interests. There are breastfeeding, cloth diapering and baby-wearing groups and forums online just to name a few. All of which are formed with the same intention: to support, release frustrations, share and become an outlet to mothers, giving them the sense that others need them, relate to them and empathize in their experiences. Sadly, it has also become a venue for motherly bullies.

For those of us who count on our groups to help us with our parenting challenges, it has become a part of a lifestyle that is indispensable. These groups have been proven to build lasting friendships and worthwhile connections since full-time and working moms alike find it hard to make time for socializing and human interaction, thus making the cyber space so reachable and accessible. Especially for most that do get the proper responses from their parenting hiccups to the extreme troubles, it is such a dismay to witness some mothers who are such "war heroes" and "extremists" who use this channel to bully the inexperienced and the weak. How come it sounds like a war of the monster moms out there?

Mom1: How can I breastfeed my baby exclusively if I only pump 2 oz per session?
Mom2: Hi, I have the same experience. I have finally come to the realization that some mothers don't have that much milk so I am mix feeding my baby formula.
Mom3: NO FORMULA! YOU ARE A BAD MOTHER!

hahahahaha

Just kidding... but it does sound like that.

In fact, I heard from a friend of mine who got so stressed about not being able to breastfeed her baby because of these pressures. I, for example, would be devastated if I was in her situation and I wouldn't need another mother to tell me how I can't give the gift of breast milk to my daughter.

Problem is, we tend to forget that "Mother knows best." Not you mother, but the mother of the child. Each parenting is different as with political views and fashion senses. If a mom asks for advice, give them your piece for reference and consideration instead of imposing your beliefs and thoughts onto them making them feel inadequate and frustrated. No mother deserves to feel that way since we all do our best for our children.

Information dissemination is important so do site your sources and be open-minded enough that not all sources are factual.

RESPECT each and everyone's opinions and agree to disagree. After all, you won't die if her baby isn't using cloth diapers or if she carries her baby facing out.

With the new laws about cyber crime in the Philippines, (I don't know what it is actually but I know it has something to this effect), we must all be wary of our cyber etiquettes and remember that being a mother is one of the most difficult job description in the world. Each mother strives to be the best and it is inhumane to show them that they aren't doing their job well.

BOTTOM LINE, I find my groups so helpful and great that I hope these motherly bullies would just stop.

Sunday, September 16, 2012

Mommy Talk: decoded for new moms online!

Hey I had to keep on guessing and I had my inferences (if I be too shy to ask!)

So you're a new mom finding resources and support online only to find yourself left out and can't relate to the numerous abreviations and short terms that they're using!

Here's to get you started and we are letting you know that you are very welcome and moms like me are always happy to help!
MIL- oh how we love them! Mother-in-law
CS- ceasarian, c-section, forget about counter strike!
CD- it sings too! Of foul smell heheh Cloth Diaper
BF- well it can be boyfriend but usually its breast feed or BFing breastfeeding, no they are not cursing you
WAHM-lucky lucky Work at Home Moms
Mompreneur- A mom that does business
LO-little one
MCDP-Cloth Diapering group in FB!
IPNAP-Infant & Pediatric Nutrition Assosiation of the Philippines
GT MTP-Girl Talk/Mommy Talk Philippines! Love this FB group
FAB- Filipino Association of Baby-wearers
ISO-in search of
TIA-Thanks in advance
NB-new born
AP-attachment parenting
BD-baby dance (sex)
AF-aunt flo (menstruation)
FTM-first time mom
DD/DS/DH- dear daughter/son/husband
SAHM-stay at home mom
SAHP-stay at home parent
EBF-extended breastfeeding
EBM-expressed breast milk
BM-breast milk or bowel movement
IMHO-in my humble opinion
HTH-hope this helps
BLW-baby led weaning

These are just a few but will update whenever I encounter new ones!



Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Driving with Baby Zofia

So I was again without a yaya last Monday. She had to go home and have her baby baptised so I let her go on leave for 3 days. She actually went there with a full pocket and went back to us empty handed as the whole barangay came to "celebrate" the baptismal.

Monday I still had to work. I had to go to Marilao (north) and I had my daughter in her car seat. You can tell she's bored so off to sleep she went as the car is her lullaby, her cradle and her rocking chair. Going there was easy as she slept almost all the way. I had to keep her strapped at the back seat facing the rear for safety.

I hate that I forgot to install the baby mirror I bought from Zalora. And we have yet to try this out.

Coming home from Marilao, she woke up hungry. Luckily we were in Manila already and I had to stop the car and feed her. I made sure the doors were locked and that we were parked well so as not to be disturbed by passers by or motorists.




I changed her diaper and placed her back in her car seat. As I left her at the back to continue our drive home, she started shouting frantically as if she was being tortured! This girl is so persistent and I had to place her on the passenger's seat instead. Let me just tell you how dangerous this is! The airbag can go off pushing the seat forward plummeting against the seat and this can cause injury or death to the child.

Anyway, on our own risk we sat side by side happily for a few moments before the rain poured so much that it sarted to flood!



I thought that if ever we get stranded at least my baby won't go hungry! The traffic was so bad that my daughter won't stay on her seat anymore (car stops, she shouts, period) so I thought she was hungry so I took her again and tried to feed her. And guess what! She just likes to play with the steering wheel!

We went like that most of the way driving oh so slowly because of the traffic, with my 5month old baby on my lap helping me steer the wheel. Again, please don't do this, this is bad! I just can't imagine what kind of penalties I'll get if I was in the US! DUI? DWB!





But as long as she's quiet, I could drive better. After 3 hours we were home! It was such an adventure but I hope I won't have to do that often and if I do, I'd know to...

1. Install the baby view mirror
2. Have lots of toys.
3. Have handy, baby music to entertain!
4. Resist the urge to take baby off her seat!
5. Have my own snacks and water inside the car.

We have to do what we have to do!

Mommy Tiffany